Yes, No or Maybe So

Everything really seemed to be coming together with potential birth mom J from Texas over the weekend. I had another opportunity to speak with her, and our social worker also spoke to her. Everything sounded great and it was really looking like we were going to be heading to Texas on Friday to be there for the birth and adopt this baby boy. Today I am not so sure.

Our agency gave J some phone numbers of reputable agencies and attorneys in Texas on Saturday, so that she could contact them and choose one to handle the adoption. J really wanted to get things moving and it sounded like she really wanted us to parent her baby. But we haven't heard from her since.

Our social worker called awhile ago to see if we had heard anything more because our agency hadn't. She said they had called around today to some more agencies and attorneys in Texas to try to help find one for the potential birth mom to work with. One agency said that 3 other agencies had contacted them with the exact same scenario -- expectant mom due Friday in Texas, interested in one of their families, still needs an adoption professional to work with, etc. So now our agency is concerned that the potential birth mom has contacted several families and hasn't actually picked one yet. Our social worker was planning to give J a call today to see how she is doing and what is going on. I also e-mailed her earlier, but haven't heard back.

As far as the other potential birth mom with the 5-year-old daughter and baby due in November, we heard from her again over the weekend. She said she sent our agency an e-mail and has now narrowed down her list of families to two -- one that lives near her and us.

Have we found our match in either of these situations? I just don't know at this point. I guess that still remains to be seen.